Comments on Cage Free Family: Recommitment

Catching up here as a fellow mom of three (congrat...

2009-12-25T23:12:01.355-07:00

Catching up here as a fellow mom of three (congrats!) and wife of many years... I have admired your relationship with your husband as you have shared it through your writing and frankly am scratching my head about a comment of "years" of marital difficulty? (I don't recall the exact description.) Marriage IS hard, as anyone knows who sticks it out through love-thick and -thin. I would love for you to share anything you would like to about that in future posts. You are helping so many in their journeys, and have such a way with attaching words to your feelings and experiences. Thank you. And Merry Christmas to you and Yours!

Hey Aimee, could you drop me an e-mail elfimka @...

2009-12-25T10:09:20.695-07:00

Hey Aimee, could you drop me an e-mail elfimka @ gmail.com, I just realized I don't have your e-mail address and I really need to ask you something.

Hope your day is blissful, Merry Christmas, love you guys!

Elya

Hey Aimee, could you drop me an e-mail elfimka @...

2009-12-25T10:08:58.840-07:00

i feel for u! i'm going thru the same thing ri...

2009-12-24T13:52:19.987-07:00

i feel for u! i'm going thru the same thing right now only mine is a year. embarrassing i know. lol. it's truly hard but i guess that is what let's us know what we still have to do and learn. if nothing ever happened to challenge our growth we'd never have to change or see how far that we've come. i'm failing at the moment...lol...hope ur doing better. i only have 2 more months at my inlaws so hopefully i can teach myself a little bit bfr i leave! :) at least we know that we're not alone!

Thank you for posting this. It is exactly what I n...

2009-12-24T06:16:13.137-07:00

Thank you for posting this. It is exactly what I needed today to bring me back to the now.

I'm up to day 4 with my parentals. They do cha...

2009-12-24T06:02:02.945-07:00

I'm up to day 4 with my parentals. They do challenge the enlightenment. Family love is complicated.

I'm learning a new way to look at similar memo...

2009-12-23T07:44:44.731-07:00

I'm learning a new way to look at similar memories...with my cognitive filter OFF.

Those memories were created, and feelings imprinted, when I didn't have the gift of hindsight or wisdom gained as an adult.

It's harder to appreciate, nurture and validate those feelings without 'explaining them away due to circumstances'...but it's highly necessary because the child-me didn't know or understand those circumstances...I only FELT the very real feelings.

I haven't quite learned how to accept that yet...my thinking brain wants to rationalize EVERYTHING...but it's time I stop dismissing those old hurts as "trivial" things I "should be over by now" because every time I do that...I invalidate them...which only makes them radiate louder.

Hugs

Two months?! Given your recent post about your chi...

2009-12-23T02:31:07.712-07:00

Two months?! Given your recent post about your childhood, I'm amazed that you had a 2-month visit with your mother. Did she stay with you or vice versa?

About forgiveness ... yes, it is for no one but yourself. Especially if the person who wronged you has not repented and changed their ways. Remember that re-parenting yourself means keeping yourself safe from harmful (physically or emotionally) people.

Just because she gave birth to you doesn't mean you have to accept her into your home. That's not unloving, it's tough love, refusing to enable her meanness.

My 2 cents. You and your family continue in my prayers. Blessings for Christmas!

how I look at it is to remember it is those memori...

2009-12-22T22:59:17.079-07:00

how I look at it is to remember it is those memories that has made you the person and mom you are today. Without those experiences you would be someone else....

Wonderful post!

2009-12-22T21:03:55.791-07:00

Wonderful post!