Comments on Cage Free Family: For Everything There Is A Season

I absolutely understand you in this post, and I ha...

2010-01-06T14:58:18.224-07:00

I absolutely understand you in this post, and I have totally been where you are. I think it was Madeleine Albright who said that women really CAN have it all - just not all at the same time. I found that to be absolutely true. When your kids are as small as yours, they really do need most of what you have to give. But later on, there truly will be time. I could only work to provide for my kids when they were small. But when they were school-aged, I went to law school - as well as working and caring for them. A few years later, as they became truly independent, I started writing. And this summer I sold my first screenplay.

When there don't seem to be enough hours in the day to do what you have to do, it's hard to believe there are enough years in a life to accomplish everything that's important to you. But there are.

There is time to do it all. Just not all at once.

You might enjoy this, which seems like it was writ...

2010-01-06T13:37:05.566-07:00

You might enjoy this, which seems like it was written with the other half of the same breath (and on the same day), though by a different person on the other side of the world:

http://www.thisordinaryday.com/2010/01/05/it-takes-time/

I'm writing about SAHM appreciation this month...

2010-01-06T10:58:31.382-07:00

I'm writing about SAHM appreciation this month on my blog. I was inspired by a book a friend gave me called "Time Out: Soul Talk for Stay-At-Home Moms" by Vera Nicholas-Gervais. She talks a lot about what you've written & are experiencing.
So just know, Mama, that there are others out there that feel the same way, me included. :)

I am a mother of three older children, 18, 20 and ...

2010-01-06T07:11:08.508-07:00

I am a mother of three older children, 18, 20 and 23, and I am in a different phase of mothering. Understand that you need to live in the now and appreciate each moment that comes. Each moment has its gift to give us if we accept where we are understanding that the now is impermanent and fluidly changing.

My husband and I draw a lot of strength from Stoic writings and have a daily reading blog if you are interested... One of the main Stoic practices is Mindfulness... living in the now.

http://wordsoftheancientwise.blogspot.com/

"To just keep b r e a t h i n g and believing...

2010-01-05T20:03:42.129-07:00

"To just keep b r e a t h i n g and believing that there is time for everything that is meant to be.
Just to remember that I will never be here again and had best not take it for granted."

Thank you for this! This was exactly where I was today, and you captured it perfectly...

I really know what you mean about "choosing d...

2010-01-05T17:58:24.298-07:00

I really know what you mean about "choosing dreams or family". There are so many things I never had a chance to do before becoming a mom and sometimes I do feel like I'm trapped in a sort of monotony that doesn't suit my spirit.

On the same token there are times when I think about the values that mothers like you and I are actively instilling in our children and that seems like a pretty important accomplishment/aspiration too;)

It is interesting to read this and is a reminder t...

2010-01-05T17:18:09.444-07:00

It is interesting to read this and is a reminder that the grass isn't always greener. I envy you, in a way, as I would love to get pregnant and have a baby. However, I am single and therefore I can not afford to not work. I'm not sure I could raise a child that way I would want to while working a full-time job (some day cares won't do cloth diapers...and that's just one of many things).

So, from my point of view, I would gladly give up some of my abundant free time in order to experience the joy of having a child (ot to say that you want to give up your children in order to have more free time!).